“The trick in life is how to deal with it.” Dame Helen Mirren
We all have bad days and we all have good days. Sometimes there is no logic to it, no rhyme, no reason- we wake up and feel great or wake up and feel rubbish. Learning to deal with these ups and downs is important and can make a huge difference to how the rest of the day goes and how our interactions with others go.
Things will go wrong. Fact. It’s learning how to cope when they do that is key. Learning how to pick oneself up after a setback can be the difference between success and failure. Having that resilience, that bouncebackability is really, really, really important. As is having a person to talk to or an activity to do to reset the equilibrium.
Resilience is something that is often talked about in schools and teaching it is something that we all try to do. The problem is that it is something so intangible; it is impossible to measure, impossible to evidence and impossible to teach. We guide our students and always remind them that it is ok to make mistakes, that they must “try, try and try again,” that it is better to get it wrong 10 times and then right on the 11th time than to not have tried in the first place, encourage participation but one cannot make a horse drink (if you don’t mind mixing your metaphors).
The thing is, it really is that simple. Making mistakes, as I referenced in an earlier blog, is part of learning and does not make people think you are a silly billy; sitting there, not trying to get it right and not willing to get it wrong most certainly does! Coping with failure is as important as coping with success. Learning to dust oneself off metaphorically and try again is such an important part of life. As Rudyard Kipling put it “If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster, And treat those two impostors just the same…”
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